It might be a bit embarrassing for a young man (or any male, for that matter) to approach doctors when they have erection issues. Here is a way to check for your erection ability in your own private space and time.
Check erection ability by solitary masturbation:
- Is the penis firm and fully-engorged?
- Is endurance time satisfactory? Is the orgasm pleasing?
- In other respects, is life reasonably happy and fulfilling?
If the answers are no, there may be physical disease or mental depression. Consult with a physician promptly because they can be treated and cured. If die answers are mainly yes, the problem may be due to stress.
Go slow on future relationships. Avoid pressure from self or a partner to make love. That can be a betrayal of values which the unconscious immediately recognizes. The real challenge is not to erect with a partner, but to find a partner whom the unconscious trusts, one with similar values and needs. Give this challenge a best shot. Wait until then.
Regard stress impotence as a challenge, not a curse. Avoid self-pity which can increase stress. If necessary, masturbate to relieve sexual tension. Regard this as temporary. Avoid letting it replace the real thing with the risk of isolation. It can reduce the desire to seek the wider pleasures of partner love.
If self help does not work, seek a sex behavior therapist. Above all, continue the search for a compatible mate.
All That Jazz
Is stress impotence due to poor parenting? What of psychotherapy, psycho-babble, all that jazz? The majority of men under stress do not want to delve into their past. They feel they have enough to cope with in their present state. Sex behavior therapy is no longer mainly concerned with investigating childhood trauma. It tackles the immediate problem of restoring potency, and fast. The following check list is only for those men interested in unresolved conflicts. Was suffering caused in youth by:
- Strict over-moralistic rearing?
- Sex for procreation only?
- Guilt over masturbation?
- Homosexual anxieties?
- Religious /cultural taboos?
- Domineering/manipulative mother?
- Weak/passive/brutal or absent father?
- Childhood sexual abuse?
Any of the above can traumatize a sensitive child. The critical word here is “sensitive.” In a family of boys, brothers who receive equally poor parenting are not equally affected. It is the sensitive son with highly developed perceptive powers who may develop potency problems in adult life.
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